Kathy Leaver: Find the positives and focus on them

To the editor:

There's no question the times we are living in are in a big mess, to say the least. We can't turn on a T.V. or pick up a paper without hearing about violence, mayhem and murder, all in the name of hate! Hate, anger and violence only beget more hate, anger and violence — ending in despair and hopelessness. Darkness and hate will not improve by more darkness and hate. We must overcome that with light and love.

No, it's not that simple. There are many circumstances we have no control over that stir up very strong emotions in us. How we handle those feelings, we do have control over!

Our lives are filled with times where we can either react negatively or positively. Even the times when it is so incredibly intense, we still can make the choice.

So, if our times are more dark then light right now, we first need to try and find any little positives we can in the situation and focus only on them. If we can't do anything about it then we need to change the way we look at and react to it. Being negative about a situation we have no control over won't do a thing for that situation, will it? It's also wasted energy for us.

Living in a constant negative state is no good for our health, either. Physically, emotionally, spiritually. It even affects those around us; it's draining on them. It can be hard having to search for any positives in bad situations, but it's worth it. It takes training our thoughts and brain when that bad thing happens not to immediately get negative and stay there. It's on purpose looking for that little piece of positive, hanging on to it and moving on with that.

We know the saying when God closes a door, He opens a window. Well, we have to purposely look for that window and not stay focused on the closed door!

Just because I've written this letter doesn't mean I can do the same things I've written about. I do try but I'm far from perfect. I do have a very strong faith in my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and He helps me a great deal.

I also know that faith isn't for everybody, although selfishly I wish it was! I'm not trying to "shove Christianity at you." I'm talking about changing how we look at each situation and then reacting in a positive, loving manner. Eventually love cancels out hate, and light outshines the darkness.

I've written this from my heart. I'm hoping we all will start working on spreading love and light as we go on with our lives. The more we do it, the easier it will become, I think!

Bottom Line: If we can't change a bad situation, let's work diligently to find any positives and change our attitudes regarding the situation. If we can change a situation, we should try to change it in a positive manner.

I do believe we all can do this if we put in the belief, effort and time to help out our "little place on the map."

God Bless,

Kathy Leaver

Berlin