Joseph F. Dorsett Sr.: We can start today and make a new ending

To the editor:

Our country has a high rate of retirees, most of them considering relocating from the homes and neighborhoods where they spent most of their life and raised their children.

It is difficult to accept and a very emotional time in one’s life.

You can’t start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.

One day during a conversation with a friend, she told me her mother and father were building a new house. My friend was in her 50s. I said, that’s crazy, your folks must be in there 70s by now. Why would they take on such a project at that age?

Many years went by until the day arrived my wife and I were about to retire and we were in our early 70s.

I could not help but think of that day my friend told me about her parents building a new house at 70.

After much thought, I realized why they were moving forward. They were looking for a purpose.

I believe if you are not moving forward, you are moving backward.

Elderly people have to give up enough, but you do not have to accept the status quo or move backward; that choice is up to you.

Most elderly people pick the status quo, it’s comfortable.

Being comfortable carries an element of fear. That’s not living; it’s existing.

Don’t let family and friends keep you from making your choice if you want to live life rather than exist.

Do something new, find a purpose.

We must have a purpose to get up in the morning with a good attitude. Finding that purpose is up to you.

God does not want us to be miserable with ourselves and others. That does not mean we cannot pursue happiness, contentment and peace of mind.

I believe life does not allow us much time to enjoy those pursuits while raising children or building a career.

Remember, if happiness, contentment and peace of mind are important to you, get it while you can.

Find a purpose that will move you forward; do not allow the fear of status quo or transience to compel you to move backward.

“Without accepting the fact that everything changes, we cannot find perfect composure. But unfortunately, although it is true, it is difficult for us to accept it. Because we cannot accept the truth of transience.” — Shunryu Suzuki.

Joseph F. Dorsett Sr.